Leave your heart open for new connections

I remember talking with friends back in Spain about how complicated it is to make yourself home around new people and how difficult it is to discover what you have to offer to a new society.
 

It turns out that there is such a thing as social capital. People establish human connections within those in their area of social, family or work interest, and after you reach a certain age it is difficult to enter groups which sometimes seem to be sealed with steel. The social capital I speak of is not a reference to Marx. It is the one that favours your status in the network of interpersonal relationships. It might seem like it's all very metaphorical, but it's not complicated at all. I promise that I will not make metaphors about industrial capitalism because even without being aware of these words, the simple act of writing them with raw metaphors of their alignment with the system would sentence those who practise this scam to relational death.

Therefore we understand that, once you get here, you are already out, situate yourself, and you are bait. I refuse. I heartily believe that we all want to forge selfless and deep relationships and to do so sometimes we have to rely on the method of trial and error and doing that again and again and again and again.... A method that many international students have to get used to.

Related to Nietzsche's sixth sense, Joshua Cooper Ramo stated that there is a 7th sense, which is the ability to look at any object and see how it´s changed by connections. What's in for the connection with other people? How much do you bear change? Moving into a new city is always tricky and exciting. You do not know the social rules or the dynamic of social groups among those who have the same interests as you, you don't know what is there for you.

One day you find yourself having a coffee with your antithesis because even though cities like Utrecht are small, finding people who feel at home takes time. Even so, it has been sunnier here than I expected. People here leave the doors of their homes and hearts open, so sometimes you start to make room yourself without realising it. Let's not fall into hierarchical relational dynamics and continue to be open to new connections.

It's sunny, the city looks at us with tenderness, haven't you noticed? They are throwing us a welcome party.